B.I. #72 08-98
NORTH MIAMI BEACH FL
‘I love women. I really do. I love them. Everything about them. I can’t even describe it. Short ones, tall ones, fat ones, thin. From drop-dead to plain. To me, hey: all women are beautiful. Can’t get enough of them. Some of my best friends are women. I love to watch them move. I love how different they all are. I love how you can never understand them. I love love love them. I love to hear them giggle, the different little sounds. The way you just can’t keep them from shopping no matter what you do. I love it when they bat their eyes or pout or give you that little look. The way they look in heels. Their voice, their smell. Those teeny red bumps from shaving their legs. Their little dainty unmentionables and special little womanly products at the store. Everything about them drives me wild. When it comes to women I’m helpless. All they have to do is come into a room and I’m a goner. What would the world be without women? It’d — oh no not again behind you look out!’
B.I. #28 02-97
YPSILANTI MI [SIMULTANEOUS]
K—:‘What does today’s woman want. That’s the big one.’
E—:‘I agree. It’s the big one all right. It’s the what-do-you-call….’
K—:‘Or put another way, what do today’s women think they want versus what do they really deep down want.’
E—:‘Or what do they think they’re supposed to want.’
Q.
K—:‘From a male.’
E—:‘From a guy.’
K—:‘Sexually.’
E—:‘In terms of the old mating dance.’
K—:‘Whether it sounds Neanderthal or not, I’m still going to argue it’s the big one. Because the whole question’s become such a mess.’
E—:‘You can say that again.’
K—:‘Because now the modern woman has an unprecedented amount of contradictory stuff laid on her about what it is she’s supposed to want and how she’s expected to conduct herself sexually.’
E—:‘The modern woman’s a mess of contradictions that they lay on themselves that drives them nuts.’
K—:‘It’s what makes it so difficult to know what they want. Difficult but not impossible.’
E—:‘Like take your classic Madonna-versus-whore contradiction. Good girl versus slut. The girl you respect and take home to meet Mom versus the girl you just fuck.’
K—:‘Yet let’s not forget that overlayed atop this is the new feminist-slash-postfeminist expectation that women are sexual agents, too, just as men are. That it’s OK to be sexual, that it’s OK to whistle at a man’s ass and be aggressive and go after what you want. That it’s OK to fuck around. That for today’s woman it’s almost mandatory to fuck around.’
E—:‘With still, underneath, the old respectable-girl-versus-slut thing. It’s OK to fuck around if you’re a feminist but it’s also not OK to fuck around because most guys aren’t feminists and won’t respect you and won’t call you again if you fuck around.’
K—:‘Do but don’t. A double bind.’
E—:‘A paradox. Damned either way. The media perpetuates it.’
K—:‘You can imagine the load of internal stress all this dumps on their psyches.’
E—:‘Come a long way baby my ass.’
K—:‘That’s why so many of them are nuts.’
E—:‘Out of their minds with internal stress.’
K—:‘It’s not even really their fault.’
E—:‘Who wouldn’t be nuts with that kind of mess of contradictions laid on them all the time in today’s media culture?’
K—:‘The point being that this is what makes it so difficult, when for example you’re sexually interested in one, to figure out what she really wants from a male.’