He was an only child, born of an unhappy marriage. His father had married his mother because she was pregnant — he hadn’t wanted to, he’d been in love with two other women at the time. When Phelps was eight or nine his grandfather, whom he loved, shot himself. It was during the Depression. The old man had lost everything, including in the end his house, which Phelps’s father had bought and in which they all lived together while the sharp-tongued grandmother, in scorn, ate her husband’s soul. There was a long argument that began over some tiny windows. The grandfather, who was a cabinetmaker, had fashioned two little windows to be set in doors — in those days housewives were being assaulted by roving, jobless men who came for a handout. No one wanted to manufacture the miniature windows, however, and they sat in the workshop. Robert loved them, of course. For his birthday his grandfather installed one in the room, little more than a closet beneath the eaves, where Robert slept. The grandmother noticed it while she was raking leaves and was furious. Here the house was again to be sold and he was marring it with this foolish window.
That night there was a bitter argument at the dinner table. His grandfather went outside and soon afterwards Robert heard his name being called. He went out to the garage where his grandfather had his workshop, and just as he drew near, there was a shot. The old man had put a rifle to his chest.
Robert’s father came running. He began to shout at his father-in-law, who was lying on the floor. A few hours later, in the hospital, the grandfather died.
There was more to come. In the offices where his father worked was a man who had seven or eight children and who the times had made desperate. His co-workers banded together, each to support a child, and Phelps’s father sponsored one of the daughters, a girl of twelve or so.
He gave her money. He bought her clothes. And somewhere along the way she became his mistress. Her name being completely familiar there, emboldened, he brought her to stay in the house. Why, his wife wanted to know? He found some explanation. It was uncomfortable, however, the invisible currents, the instincts. She didn’t remain. Then, needing a go-between, the father confessed everything to his son. For two years Robert served the pair, hiding it from his mother, trying to protect her.
In the end she found out. She had seen them together or someone had told her. Robert was walking with her behind the house, coming up a path, when suddenly she fell to her knees, weeping. That night there was a terrible fight and his father confessed it all. His mother tried to kill herself by slashing her wrists. Two years later she died. It was breast cancer, metastasized everywhere. Phelps’s father married the girl.
After college, Robert never returned home. He had adored his mother, he was deeply attached to her. He drew the curtain. I asked him once about his years in Cleveland; he remembered very little of that, he said.
“But you lived there. You wrote for the newspaper.”
“I used to write obituaries for the Cleveland Press during the summers,” he said.
“Then you do know it.”
“I knew certain people who died in the forties” was all he would say.
He had resected it from his life. He never saw his father again. One day there was a telephone call; it was from his stepmother. Daddy was very sick — she had always called him Daddy — could Robert come? “No,” he said.
Instead he wrote his father a long letter saying that their parting was forever; there was nothing between them anymore. A friend called the next day to say how awful the effect had been and pleaded with him to come home; his father was dying. He did not go. Nor did he go to the funeral. There was a half-sister he had never seen.
One is drawn to lives achieved in agony. His beautiful scrap-books and letters. Earthly Paradise, his assemblage of Colette’s writing to form an autobiography, her own intimate descriptions with his knowing linkage. He wrote another book on Colette, Belles Saisons, in a form he liked, photographs with extended captions, which surpassed most longer works. It had a unique shape, a bit wider than ordinary books with endpapers the blue of Colette’s stationery. When the first copy arrived his wife sat up all night reading it.
“Such a beautiful book,” she cried to me worshipfully the next day. She loved what it represented. I opened it and began to read. I was so overwhelmed I kissed him.
Colette, as it turned out, was his chief subject. He edited her collected stories and translated her letters. I had an inscribed copy of Earthly Paradise—it was the favorite book of my daughter and was buried with her.
The long, fluttering hand, its helplessness becoming worse over the years, could no longer write. It was Parkinson’s disease, psychosomatic, he knew or at least said, the result of rage, self-condemnation, and self-betrayal, in the end fatal. I could barely hear his voice, a whisper leached away by illness.
A long leap forward now to the last time I saw him. He was lying beneath a single white sheet in the heat of July. Very ill, he could no longer speak. He held my hand for a long time and occasionally gave me what I can only think of as canny glances. It was a sweltering afternoon. His torso and legs lay bare. The lean body and beautiful feet, I would have bent and kissed them were it not for the black nurse sitting silent, watching.
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When I think of him I think of France, the appetite we had in common. He knew the world of its writers. I knew the provinces, the beautiful, empty roads, the faded rooms. The French figure I knew best was, of course, Napoleon. I remembered that he had married Josephine when she was thirty-two, and that she had subtracted five years from her age for the occasion, while he gallantly added one to his. Robert had gone to the Larousse to see if it was true, but about Napoleon I was confident, I had led the class in military history, I knew his life.
In Phelps’s book about Cocteau, Professional Secrets, there is Cocteau’s confession Every morning I tell myself, you can do nothing about it: submit. A suitcase contained his unfinished novel, left for months on Fire Island; the abandoned attempts — I write and write, he said, but it’s fiction, I don’t believe what I am saying — and short stories begun ten years earlier until, I have a strickening sense of waste, of important days of my life slipping away without being marked, or used … He did submit, unhappily, year by year. To me it seemed romantic, like a sophisticated alcoholism. Whatever his failure, he made me faithful to him and to the things he believed. He is woven for me into the stuff of literature, the literary life.
At someone’s memorial a few years later, during the tributes, while girl photographers skipped along the front row to shoot well-known faces, a man rose slightly in his seat and looked back, a young man, intelligent, unsure, in dark glasses and a camel’s-hair coat. I recognized him instantly but with a shock: Robert Phelps at twenty-four, undamaged, ignorant of what he would one day come to know so well, il faut payer.
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In January 1972, the year’s beginning, smooth blank pages lay beneath my hand, and in hours of undisturbed solitude I began an outline. No, this is not exactly right. The outline, sixty-five pages of it, was scribbled on the back side of leaves of an old loose-leaf desk calendar. The smooth blank pages came three days later during a huge blizzard, the temperature very low, the snow fine as salt. The roads were closed, Denver airport, Loveland Pass.
I was nervous and elated. I knew what I wanted: to summarize certain attitudes towards life, among them that marriage lasted too long. I was perhaps thinking of my own. I had in mind a casting back, a final rich confession, as it were. There was a line of Jean Renoir’s that struck me: The only things that are important in life are those you remember. That was to be the key. It was to be a book of pure recall. Everything in the voice of the writer, in his way of telling. I had a list of sufficiently inspiring titles, Nyala, Mohenjodaro, Estuarial Lives. I was writing to fit them, though in the end none survived.