‘I could,’ I said, ‘but it’s too expensive to run on a monthly basis. So I rely on texting.’
‘Well then, I am going to put the ball completely in your court. Here again is my card. My cell number is the one at the bottom. I am free tomorrow as of twelve noon — and I would love to spend the day with you. If you don’t contact me, no hard feelings whatsoever. It’s been lovely sharing this time with you. And I truly wish you well. Because — if I may say so — you deserve good things.’
Silence.
‘Thank you,’ I finally said. ‘Thank you so much.’
We stood up. I found myself wanting to say: Shall we meet somewhere downtown around one p.m.? But again I held back.
‘Can I walk you to your car?’ he asked.
‘No need. I got lucky and found a spot right outside the movie house.’
‘That still requires a few steps.’
We left the bar and said nothing as we walked less than half a block to my elderly vehicle. If Richard noticed its decrepitude he was very good at not showing it.
‘Well then. ’ I said.
‘Well then.’
Another silence.
‘I’m sorry tomorrow won’t work out,’ I said, thinking: Now the door has been slammed twice.
‘You have my number.’
‘That I do.’
‘And that cheerleader — the one who heckled you — I bet she regrets all that now.’
‘I tend to doubt it. But do you want to hear one of the great supreme ironies of my life? My daughter’s a cheerleader. Not a mean one, I hope. But very much a cheerleader. And very much desperate to be popular at all costs.’
‘So she’s lonely.’
And I heard myself say:
‘Aren’t we all?’
As soon as those words were out of my mouth, I whispered a fast goodbye and climbed into the car, unnerved by the fact that I had just told a stranger the one central thing that had been unsettling me for days, months, years: the fact that I’ve felt so terribly alone.
And having made that huge admission, what did I do? I slammed the door and drove right off into the night.
Six
WHEN I GOT back to the hotel it was almost one a.m. When was the last time I had stayed up so late, talking, talking, talking?
I felt a stab of self-reproach. Especially as I saw a text from my husband.
I was out of line before. Sorry. Dan
So there it was. An apology of sorts. Terse. Telegraphic. Devoid of emotion. Devoid of love.
And how did I react to this detached expression of regret? Without a pause for reflection I texted back:
No problem. We all have our off moments. Love you. Laura
Once contempt is finally articulated in a marriage, it never really stops. And though Dan’s anger of late had been so quietly contemptuous, his surliness tonight was, in part, due to the stress he’d been under, and the fact that he’d been roused out of sleep by my ill-timed call.
Why was I excusing his very bad behavior right now? Because part of me was feeling just a little guilty about having those two glasses of wine with Richard. and so enjoying myself. Just as I was also simultaneously castigating myself for turning my blurted-out admission of loneliness into a reason to dash off into the night. No doubt he now considered me highly strung and profoundly uptight. Except for that one innocent aside about this being something akin to a first date — an aside which I absurdly jumped on — Richard did absolutely nothing to indicate that he was in any way cruising me. Nor did he signal whatsoever that he was unhappily married or so frustrated with his personal situation that he wanted to.
But the way we talked about words, the way he got me to recite that poem by Frost, the way this man — who struck me initially as rather gray and fusty — suddenly came alive when we got discussing matters literary. He really seemed to get me on a level that.
Oh, will you listen to yourself. ‘He got you?’ Now you sound like an adolescent who’s met the fellow class geek and is dazzled by the fact that he seems genuinely interested in what you yourself so value.
And what is so wrong with meeting someone who actually thinks there is worth in language spoken and written? And why the hell are you classifying yourself and Richard as geeks?
Because I married a man who told me once he feared his son had ‘inherited the geek gene from his mom’.
Of course, I never said anything about this remark (made just before Ben had his breakdown and was already displaying signs of fragility). Of course, when Dan saw my shocked expression in the wake of this comment, he then backpedaled, telling me he was just jesting, ha-ha. Me being me I let it drop. But it has nagged at me since. Because it struck me as so unkind. And because, before that, Dan had never done unkind.
And now.
Once contempt is finally articulated in a marriage, it never really stops.
Bing.
Another text on my phone.
Hey Mom — weird thing happened today. Out of nowhere Allison dropped by my studio.
Oh God. Why do manipulative heartbreakers always come back to wreak more havoc? I read on.
She was being all-friendly. Saying what a brilliant artist I am. Making really complimentary noises about the new painting I’m working on. Dropping all these hints that she really missed me. I know you’re going to say not to go near her. But the thing is, I want to. Even if I get burnt again. Maybe will be a bit more flame-resistant this time. No lectures, please, but would like to know your thoughts. B xxx
Oh God. Allison the Arch Manipulator. Having aided and abetted my son’s breakdown she now has probably sniffed out the fact that he’s gotten over her and is back painting. So, naturally, she has to see if she can inflict more damage on him. But, reading through Ben’s text around five more times, what intrigued and pleased me most was the hint that he knew she might do her best to hurt him, but he could handle it. Part of me wanted to tell him: Slam the door in that vixen’s face. But I knew that Ben would interpret this as far too maternal, edging perhaps into the puritanical. Ben saw himself as a bohemian — and one who reacted badly when lectured on morality or the need to ‘be responsible’ or act like ‘some dull asshole who sells insurance’.
I thought about phoning Ben right back — he never got to bed before three on most nights — but also knew that this was not a wise idea. When Ben wanted to talk he’d phone me. When he wanted to limit the communication to the written word he’d email. When he wanted an immediate response — without direct conversation — he’d text. So I resisted the temptation to dial his number. Instead I punched out the following message:
Ben — all cliches are true, especially: leopards don’t change their spots. I think she’s toxic. But I am not you. If you feel you can get involved again — and not get hurt — then by all means enjoy the sex, but don’t think it’s romance, let alone love. Those are my words of wisdom for Friday night. Call me whenever you want to talk. I love you — Mom
As always I read through the text several times before sending it, making certain it didn’t sound too cloying. I hit the ‘send’ button, then sent a text to Sally:
Hi hon — in Boston. Hotel isn’t much, but nice having a little time away. Hope you’re having a chilled weekend. You deserve some serious downtime. Around if you need me. Otherwise see you Sunday night. Love — Mom
Again I scrutinized the message carefully before sending it, taking out the word ‘chilled’, as that was an expression Sally used all the time (as in: ‘I so wish I could chill’ — something she genuinely found hard to do). Coming from me it would sound a hollow note, as if I was trying to use her generation’s argot and could stand accused of trying to be ‘with it’ (to use my generation’s argot). Just as I know that Sally certainly didn’t need some ‘serious downtime’. She needed seriousness.