"Oh-God!" Sylvia gasped. "Oh-mother-no!"
"I ought to know…," Vic said, acidly, turning to mother with an angry frown. "I'm the one who introduced her to swapping. We're both sorry to have bothered you!"
"Vie stomped out the door angrily…," Sylvia noted. "Vie told me that mother had given him an account of my sensual activities since childhood. Vic was furious-suspecting that mother wanted to break us up."
"I don't mind marrying a fallen woman…," Vic laughed, squeezing my hand and affirming his affection for me. "It just proves to me that you're human. Now that I've met your mother I understand a lot of things. As long as we both enjoy swapping…," Vic laughed, "we'll indulge. When we get tired of it… I guess we can become a normal monogamous married couple. At least I'm sure that you're a normal woman in every way. Which is more than I can say for your mother!"
PSYCHOLOGICAL COMMENT:
This most interesting case history came to my attention when Sylvia consulted me concerning her very real problem with her mother. Sylvia's faith seemed to be shattered. She complained that she thought her mother hated her and secretly wanted to destroy her. Not having met Sylvia's mother I was not in a position to voice an opinion… however the facts are evident that Sylvia's lack of communication with her only close relative caused her much psychological trauma.
Sylvia went over intimate details of her childhood. She had masturbated heavily. But then that was nothing new or unusual I noted that it quite often happens that children develop the ability to obtain satisfying orgasms at the age of two years or more Sylvia revealed that she had always lacked 'love' from her mother and that she had tried to seek it in other ways.
Sylvia seems to have learned that love and sex are quite different and that sex is merely the physical expression of love. Sylvia is coming to understand the violent physical needs of her body and she no longer experiences any deep-seated guilt problems concerning her swapping activities.
Sylvia genuinely wants to be a good wife, and in the future, a mother to the children that she and Vic may have. I interviewed Vic and found him to be a level-headed and stable, emotionally mature man. In discussing sex Vic admitted that his own desires were quite extreme and that he thought it would be almost impossible for him to remain faithful to one woman for the rest of his life. Vic admits he is strongly interested in oral sex, anal intercourse and analinctus. For this and other reasons Vic claims he is glad that he had married a girl who is also sexually mature.
Both Vic and Sylvia admit they suffer extreme physical desires which are best satisfied within the swapping scene. Neither feels any shame for their desires. Both Sylvia and Vic seem to respect their bodies and feel that swapping is the best means of satisfying their desires.
Sexual acts which were once termed 'perversions' seem to be quite popular in the world of swapping. Frequently members indulge in oral sex, analinctus and acts of anal sodomy.
In SODOMITE PRACTICES by Roger Blake, the author notes…
"Analinctus, the tonguing of the love partner's anus and the lingual penetration thereof, is indulged either actively or passively at one time or another by a great number of people with frequent sexual contacts." (8)
In SODOMITE PRACTICES, Roger Blake notes also…
"The anal area is erotically responsive in some individuals… As many as half or more of the population may find some degree of erotic satisfaction in anal stimulation. There are some males and females who may be as aroused erotically by anal stimulation as they are by stimulation of the genitilia, or who may be more intensely aroused." (8)
Author Roger Blake concludes in SODOMITE PRACTICES…
"I have never known of a heterosexually active male who has not participated in anal-intercourse with a female at least once. And I find it to be a popular indulgence of many erotically active females, perhaps as many as 50%. With a great number of women it has become a preferred practice and a means of achieving orgasm." (8)
In swapping sessions it is quite common for two men to make love to one woman. Or for two women to make love to one man. Although the term "Troilism" refers more specifically to a love-session between three persons we sometimes refer to the sex-sandwich in which three persons are involved as a 'menage-a-trois,' through most swapping adventures consist of more than three persons.
Sylvia comments that she was made love to by two men at once when one penetrated her vaginally and another utilized her anus for his intimate physical needs.
In TROLISM: LOVE FOR THREE author Roger Blake comments…
"And hardly ever is a triangular love session devoted only to simple genital-to-genital contact. Nearly all of the variations are employed to satisfy the polymorphous and plurisexual needs of those in the trio." (4)
Men and women who participate in swap sessions may become involved in practicing sodomy, cunnilingus, fellatio, three-way love sessions and any combination of sexual perversions that they can imagine and that they might find desirable at the time.
Since man is both human and animal at the same time he often has much difficulty in understanding his own physical desires. Sylvia admits she felt guilty about her ‘bad reputation' but verifies that by engaging in swapping she limited her promiscuous activities strictly to members within the group.
Sylvia admits she is glad that her husband is a swapper. She testifies that she believes that few men are faithful to their wives. Sylvia admits she would hate to deceive her husband about her own desires. Since both Sylvia and Vic seem to be sexually active people with strong desires perhaps swapping does seem to be the simple solution to their erotic desires.
Today's morals are changing much faster than we can record them and give an authentic account for these changes. Young men today seem much more interested in finding a wife that can please them sensually than in finding a 'pure virgin'. Surveys taken among college males prove that 'chastity' is not one of the most important factors when a man goes shopping for a wife. This shows that our moral and social patterns are undergoing a radical change.
In today's times the emphasis seems to be on social and sexual compatibility more than on chastity. The increase of swapping activities among adults and teens is another indication of our quickly changing times. In future Chapters we hope to explore this phenomenon more carefully.
Chapter 2
Wife-swapping is becoming more and more popular as the conditions of our society become more confused and as we become more unsure of our future and our ultimate destiny. It is as if we are trying to find something permanent, something pleasurable and reassuring, in our unstable world.
Most laymen think of the couples who indulge in swapping as unstable, probably unhappily married, and emotionally immature. However, the facts seem to indicate the opposite. Though many critics consider the practice immoral it is not considered to be unhealthy by many practicing psychiatrists and psychologists. Many indeed regard mate-sharing as the answer to the problems confronting mans' over-active libido. Many psychiatrists argue that it is a safety-valve allowing for the release of sexual tensions without guilt. Indeed, in many cases, swapping becomes a way of sharing the guilt and pleasure equally among husband and wife.
In THE SEXUAL VARIANTS; author Harvey T. Leathern notes…
"Immoral as wife-swapping may be-immorality, of course, being outside the realm of our study-unhealthy it is not. The theory that a marriage in sexual trouble will be bolstered by the use of a strange sexual apparatus in place of the familiar one is wrong-because sexual disharmony always indicates certain emotional conflicts, and wife-swapping is a most unemotional, if very sensual, pastime." (16)