As a therapist, I believe nothing is coincidental, no connection is unfounded. There was a reason that the members of the Scarlet Society reminded me of a bereavement group I’d had eight years before. I just had to be patient and discover what the correlation was.
Fourteen
“Let’s go over the few rules that I ask everyone to follow when they’re here. You all have a right to talk and an obligation to listen. We don’t judge one another, but we do discuss how one another’s comments make us feel. Even if those reactions are negative. Especially if they are. My job is to help you explore how you deal with one another. And consider behavior that is detrimental to the group as a whole and to its members individually-but I’m not your mother, your friend or your teacher.”
I looked from one woman to the next as I explained how the group worked. There was an apprehensive energy in the room, which I was certain was not a reaction to my instructions. These women were scared of something and deeply disturbed; I could see it in the way they shifted in their seats, played with their hands or the straps of their bags, or looked around.
“When I ask you a question, there is no right or wrong answer. We’re here for you to talk about your feelings or your problems expressing those feelings. For those of you who have been in a group-therapy situation before, this is probably familiar. For those of you who haven’t, please ask me to explain anything that’s unclear. Any questions so far?”
I waited, but no one spoke.
“Okay, why don’t we go around the room so you can introduce yourselves to me and tell me a little bit about why you, personally, are here and what you hope we will accomplish.” I turned to my right, knowing I would be frustrating the woman in the red suit to my left who, judging from her movements, wanted, expected and perhaps even needed to go first.
Before the woman on my right could speak, Shelby interrupted.
“Dr. Snow, I think we should just introduce ourselves and then I can tell you what the problem is. But first we need the confidentiality agreement I sent you with the videotape. You told me on the phone you would sign it.”
I watched for reactions to Shelby’s assertion of power: no one seemed surprised by her taking over. Responding to the group, rather than to Shelby, I said, “The entire relationship between us is predicated on trust. Just like any doctor, I am bound by doctor-patient confidentiality and will not disclose anything you say to anyone outside of this room. The only exception to that rule is if I have information that one of my patients might inflict harm upon herself. So if one of you talks about committing suicide and I feel you mean it, I will have to go to the authorities. The same holds true if one of you tells me that you intend to kill someone and gives me reason to believe you mean it, as opposed to just thinking or fantasizing about it. I should tell you, though, that in all the years that I have been practicing, I have never had to break a patient’s trust.”
Shelby nodded. “We all understand that, but I really have to insist.”
Nina had known I wanted to work with this group, almost desperately, even if I wasn’t sure I knew all of the reasons. Our talk had prepared me for Shelby’s ultimatum. But it still rankled me. I got up, walked over to my desk, pulled the signed sheet out of a folder and gave it to her. She took it, glanced at it, folded it and put it in her bag.
I sat down, turned to the woman on my right and said, “Let’s try the introductions again.” I smiled at her.
Louise M. introduced herself and added, “I’m glad you are working with us. We need help.”
One by one, we went around the circle. Ginny P., Shelby R., Martha G., Ellen S., Bethany W., Anne K., Liz B., Cara L., Aimee B., Gail S. and Davina C. I didn’t remember all their names right away, but after listening to them for an hour and a half, I would.
During that initial go-around, I’d discovered the blond, slightly ethereal woman in black, who seemed so sad, was Anne. Liz was the woman in the worn brown blazer who was so observant. Ellen was the red-suited woman who’d wanted to be the first to talk.
“Do you all keep your last names private in the society?” Even though Shelby had told me that they did, I wanted to get them talking.
“Damn straight,” Ellen said. I was not surprised that she answered. “We don’t use our last names and neither do the men who join us. Our privacy is as important to us as getting what we want,” she said, giving the last phrase an emphasis and energy that was slightly confrontational.
Shelby continued to explain: “Our entire organization- all of the chapters around the country-abides by the same rules. In fact, some of us don’t even use our real first names. We know one another only in one way, in one environment. We aren’t friends outside of the society. It would be far too risky.”
I saw Anne lower her head.
“How would it be risky?”
“We have families, spouses, children. We have careers. Some of us have public lives,” Shelby said.
“But you are all a family, too, aren’t you? A certain kind of family?” I asked.
Anne’s shoulders heaved in a quiet sob. “Yes, we are,” she said softly.
“We are a group of women who believe in fulfilling our sexual potential beyond the ways that society deems acceptable. We have refused to be afraid of what we want.” Shelby said, taking back the reins.
I had to get the other women talking.
“What does it feel like to set the rules and the terms you want?” I asked, looking from Bethany to Liz to Davina, hoping to engage them.
Davina smiled. She was tall and shapely, with coffeebrown hair cut short to show off her heart-shaped face. Everything about her was lovely, except for fingernails bitten down so low there was dried blood on some of the cuticles. “It feels limitless,” she said.
“Anyone else?” I asked.
Martha, who appeared to be the youngest member of the group, smiled at me. “It feels right to me.”
No one else volunteered. It was becoming clear that I was going to have to work to find out what was bothering these women. “Can one of you describe the mission of the society?”
Shelby and Ellen both began to speak. They exchanged a glance. With a nod, Ellen acquiesced and Shelby began. “Since its inception, the society’s purpose has been to create an environment for women who want to be in power, where they can act out their sexual fantasies with men who are willing to be their sex partners.”
“Why aren’t any of the men here?” I asked.
“They don’t belong to the society. It’s our club and they are invited guests. We don’t have relationships with them. We don’t become their friends, or fall in love with them. They are just there to please us. Do you understand?”
I nodded, wondering why she was being so emphatic. I would have preferred she talk less so that the others could talk more, but it was also instructive to observe how the group deferred to her.
“What kind of men do you invite?”
“For the most part they are successful, highly respected and often powerful men, each of whom has gone through an extensive screening process. Sexually, the one thing they have in common is their preference to be submissive. Usually, we have about twice as many men on our roster as women-so we have about thirty now. All of them are invited to our weekly soirées. As long as a man accepts three out of every five invitations he remains active.”
It appeared that she could go on talking indefinitely, but Cara, another of the women in sunglasses, interrupted. Her dirty blond hair was pulled back off her face, her olive skin stretched tight over prominent bones. Her voice was low and soft, and I had to lean forward a little to hear her.
“Last week we found out that one of the men who has been with us the longest had been reported missing by the partners at his company.” She hesitated. “People wondered if he’d been kidnapped. None of us even knew his name until the article ran in the paper, with his picture.”