may be vacillating, and have serious regrets afterwards, let us say that this in fact does not occur. Vacillations occur were a decision has not been made and a series of half hearted actions, in this direction and then in that, ensue. Where a firm decision has been made, there are no regrets afterwards, only insight into what the future holds.
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ZetaTalk: Life Circumstance
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ZetaTalk: Life Circumstance
Note: written Nov 15, 1995
What type of lifestyle, or life circumstance, or race, or sex, or physical appearance most leads one to either the
Service-to-Self or Service-to-Other orientation? Incarnations are chosen by the birthing envoys based on the particular lesson or lessons the entity is most in need of learning, but the incarnation can bring unexpected influences to bear.
One formerly leaning in the Service-to-Other orientation, finding themselves born into wealth and a beautiful body,
may be lured by the ease with which they can make demands on others into considering the Service-to-Self
orientation. On the other hand, this entity may take advantage of the avenues open to one born into wealth to do
service to others on a major scale, and good looks only used as a door opener in this regard. The choice is up to the
entity, solely. One formerly leaning to the Service-to-Self, finding themselves born into the weaker sex and
unattractive at that, may find themselves empathetic to their former victims and regretting their behavior in former
lives. On the other hand, this entity more likely will choose to make themselves as unattractive as possible, taking a
rebellious stance, and bully anyone in their vicinity weaker than they as compensation. Again, the choice is up to the
entity, solely.
Crises, such as major disasters like earthquakes or hurricanes, offer opportunities for action that help the 3rd Density make their spiritual orientation decision. As you say, actions speak louder than words, meaning that words can lie, but the actions a person takes demonstrate their true intentions. In a major disaster, choices must be made, as bleeding bodies and the screams of agony are everywhere. When one turns away from the bewildered, bleeding toddler and
takes oneself to comfort and safety, one has made a clear choice.
But life offers these kinds of choices every day, in less dramatic ways, and the circumstances one is born into make
little difference. Take the choice a wealthy young man must make between taking a job that will gain him the approval
of his family and friends, or one that will allow him to make a difference in the world. He will lose some of his creature comforts, in the form of family and friends - his security blanket. How much different is that from a poor
man, relying on his extended family, who risks alienating them if he emphasizes the big picture rather than the short
term financial gain. In both cases the security blanket is being risked, and the loss is measured in relative terms. To one used to wealth, not being invited to join the yacht club is equivalent to not being included in a game of billiards, and having to downgrade one's standard of living by moving out of the big house and into a flat is equivalent to
moving out of a crowded bedroom and using the back seat of the car for a bed. It's all relative, and the spiritual lessons proceed in spite of differences in life circumstances. In all cases, what is done with the incarnation is up to the entity, solely.
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ZetaTalk: Conscious Choice
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ZetaTalk: Conscious Choice
Note: written May 15, 1997
Unlike the self-improvement disciplines that can be self imposed, one’s orientation is not a conscious choice. Humans
who are distressed at what they deem self centered motives are most likely not on the road to becoming one in the Service-to-Self. These individuals never concern themselves with such thoughts. The focus is rather on how the world,
not themselves, should change, and the change is always supposed to be one that betters the self-focused individual. In fact, conscious attempts to move oneself in the direction of Service-to-Other have a negative effect, as the focus is
often put upon behavior that is assumed to be Service-to-Other but in fact is self serving. The key in orientation is the true motive behind behavior, not the stated motive or even the apparent motive.
Self-serving actions can be disguised as benevolent treatment of others, and often is. Many organized religions enforce rigid rules upon their membership under the guise of being helpful, staying away from temptation and the like. Free
thinking is limited, and the opportunity to explore relationships with others is restricted, under the guise of helping the membership stay on the right track. Meanwhile the church collects dues, all under the guise of wanting to continue this beneficent guidance. In many human societies, children are taught almost since birth to be quiet and orderly and not
assertive. Independent thought and open expression of ideas and emotions threaten the establishment, so are termed
bad behavior. Thus, those humans who find themselves leaning toward what they have been taught is bad behavior
assume they have a long way to go until they become Service-to-Other oriented..
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ZetaTalk: Self Doubts
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Note: written Feb 15, 1997
In general, if a person wonders what orientation they have chosen, they have not yet chosen. Those who have chosen their orientation have almost daily clues that they have made a choice, and that they are solidly in one camp or the
other.
For those in the Service-to-Other, they not only find themselves frequently musing about the welfare of others,
they take steps to enhance the welfare of others. These steps are not a mere phone call inquiring about
someone’s health, but require the concerned one to go out of their way, spending precious time that would
otherwise be spent on recreation or pleasure or bettering one’s circumstances, or spending personal resources
such as savings or personal possessions. These steps are not done as a result of a resolve to become a Service-
to-Other person, they are done automatically. If one needs reminders to take these steps, then they are trying to become an individual operating in the Service-to-Other, and have not yet arrived.
For those in the Service-to-Self, the focus on the self is never ending. It is a rare and fleeting moment that this