The School of Life, 100 Questions: Love Edition (100 question cards with box – a toolkit for relationships)
The School of Life offers coaching and therapy for relationship enhancement: www.theschooloflife.com/london/shop/therapy/life-coaching
In Britain you can also find counsellors through the College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists: www.cosrt.org.uk, the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy: www.itsgoodtotalk.org.uk and Relate: www.relate.org.uk.
Acknowledgements
My thanks go to everyone who has made this book possible, especially my agent Barbara Levy and all the staff at the School of Life and at Pan Macmillan, especially Morgwn Rimel, Cindy Chan, Robin Harvie, Zennor Compton, Laura Carr, Marcia Mihotich and Jonathan Baker, all of whom have been endlessly helpful. Above all, my thanks go to Caroline Brimmer, who originally invited me to help her develop the ‘How to Choose a Partner’ course at the School of Life, and whose talent, insight and support have been an inspiration; without Caroline, this book would not have happened.
Picture Acknowledgements
The author and publisher would like to thank the following for permission to reproduce the images used in this book:
pagelink The Arnolfini Portrait © Thaliastock / Mary Evans
pagelink Sir Galahad – the Quest of the Holy Grail, 1870 (oil on canvas), Hughes, Arthur (1832–1915) © Walker Art Gallery, National Museums Liverpool / Bridgeman Images
pagelink Traffic Sign With Heart Shape © Richard Newstead / Getty Images
pagelink Human Heart Map © Kate Hiscock / Getty Images
pagelink Come Through © Everett Collection / REX Shutterstock
pagelink Watching the Roulette Wheel, Hollywood, California, 1930 (b/w photo) ©Underwood Archives / UIG / Bridgeman Images
pagelink Scene at Reelfoot Lake © Andreas Feininger / Getty Images
pagelink Jam and Marmalade aisle, Woolworths store, 1956 (b/w photo), English Photographer, (20th century) © Private Collection / Bridgeman Images
pagelink West Side Story Photo © Michael Ochs Archive / Getty Images
pagelink A Man Hiking © Lambert / Getty Images
pagelink Kissing Couple 1968 ©Mary Evans Picture Library / Shirley Baker
pagelink The Creation of Adam © Massimo Pizzotti / Getty Images
pagelink Corkscrew © Keystone France / Getty Images
pagelink Dante and Beatrice, 1883 (oil on canvas), Holiday, Henry (1839–1927) © Walker Art Gallery, National Museums Liverpool / Bridgeman Images
TOOLS FOR THINKING
A RANGE OF THOUGHTFUL STATIONERY, GAMES & GIFTS FROM THE SCHOOL OF LIFE
Good thinking requires good tools. To complement our classes, books and therapies, THE SCHOOL OF LIFE now offers a range of stationery, games and gifts that are both highly useful and stimulating for the eye and mind.
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If you enjoyed this book, we’d encourage you to check out other titles in the series:
HOW TO MAKE A HOME
EDWARD HOLLIS
HOW TO LIVE IN THE CITY
HUGO MACDONALD
HOW TO CHOOSE A PARTNER
SUSAN QUILLIAM
HOW TO THINK LIKE AN ENTREPRENEUR
PHILIP DELVES BROUGHTON
HOW TO BE A LEADER
MARTIN BJERGEGAARD & COSMINA POPA
HOW TO BE BORED
EVA HOFFMAN
Also Available:
HOW TO DEAL WITH ADVERSITY
CHRISTOPHER HAMILTON
HOW TO AGE
ANNE KARPF
HOW TO DEVELOP EMOTIONAL HEALTH
OLIVER JAMES
HOW TO CONNECT WITH NATURE
TRISTAN GOOLEY
HOW TO THINK ABOUT EXERCISE
DAMON YOUNG
HOW TO BE ALONE
SARA MAITLAND
HOW TO FIND FULFILLING WORK
ROMAN KRZNARIC
HOW TO STAY SANE
PHILIPPA PERRY
HOW TO WORRY LESS ABOUT MONEY
JOHN ARMSTRONG
HOW TO THINK MORE ABOUT SEX
ALAIN DE BOTTON
HOW TO THRIVE IN THE DIGITAL AGE
TOM CHATFIELD
HOW TO CHANGE THE WORLD
JOHN-PAUL FLINTOFF
If you’d like to explore more good ideas from everyday life, THE SCHOOL OF LIFE runs a regular programme of classes, workshops, and special events in London and other cities around the world.
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SUSAN QUILLIAM is a relationship psychologist, coach, advice columnist and Faculty member of the School of Life. She is the author of twenty-two books published in thirty-three countries and twenty-four languages. She is a regular media expert on the subject of sex and relationships.
THE SCHOOL OF LIFE is dedicated to exploring life’s big questions: How do we find fulfilling work? Can we ever understand our past? Why are relationships so hard to master? If we could change the world, should we? Based in London, with campuses around the globe, The School of Life offers classes, therapies, books and other tools to help you create a more satisfying life. We don’t have all the answers but we will direct you towards a variety of ideas from the humanities – from philosophy to literature, psychology to the visual arts – guaranteed to stimulate, provoke, nourish and console.
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By the same author:
The New Joy of Sex (co-written with Dr Alex Comfort)
Stop Arguing, Start Talking
The Relate Guide to Staying Together
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