He presents himself, performs whatever sign of respect the Mistress has decreed, begs permission to speak and begs permission for clothing ( to go to the garage say). If agreed he puts on the minimum of clothing necessary and continues with his work. When he returns he presents himself once again and strips without further command. He then kneels and awaits the Mistress' signal to resume his duties.
This may seem onerous for the slave but it is not the Mistress' problem. Her life is easy but he must apply the rule every single time no matter how often.
This is exactly what we are seeking to achieve; an easy comfortable life for the Mistress and total servitude from the slave.
If it is necessary for the slave to go outside ever few minutes he should beg permission to remain clothed until he has finished the task. On completion he should report to the Mistress, strip and prostrate himself.
I could not stand the sight of a slave serving me afternoon tea, when we return home, dressed in a shirt, trousers, shorts or even just a thong. He must be naked when performing any act of servitude for me unless circumstances make it impossible and I cannot imagine such a situation occurring in the privacy of my home. The other very important point is a psychological one.
If the slave is allowed to serve wearing clothes then he will think his Mistress does not care, can't be bothered or is a soft touch and his servitude to her will deteriorate.
Many of my friends have from time to time reported a drop in the standard of their slave’s servitude in the home. When I ask about clothing the reason is usually apparent. It is a simple rule and far more onerous for the slave than the Mistress.
This brings me to an important point. Many Mistress/slave relationships struggle because the Mistress finds it hard being a Mistress and controlling the slave all the time. It must never be like that and it can be avoided by putting the onus on the slave and setting down a rigid and detailed set of conditions and rituals which the slave must satisfy and follow at all times.
A slave should always be collared and the nature of the collar will vary according to the circumstances. Do not bother with leather; they get smelly and do not last. The only suitable material for permanent restraints is stainless steel and these will probably have to be made to measure.
The question of whether to brand or tattoo your slave is obviously a matter for personal choice. However I do think it is vital to mark your slave permanently in some way. Consensual slaves are rarely branded but the non consensual ones invariably are as the brand is a much more humiliating mark for a slave to wear than a tattoo. Branding can easily be done without risk by the Mistress in the home. If the mark is a simple initial it is possible to bend a piece of thin steel wire into the shape required. That used for fencing is ideal and with care the wire can be bent to form the handle of ‘the iron’. Naturally this work will be assigned to the slave.
The secret of a good brand is to heat the wire until it just glows dull red and apply it quickly to the skin for a count of about 2 seconds, no longer. Then immediately apply some ice. This will prevent spreading of the burn and consequent blurring of the mark. Such a brand will take about a week to ten days to heal completely and should be monitored for infection. Brands will fade over a long time but to my mind they are the most appropriate way to mark a slave. Re-branding the slave every year (on the anniversary of his enslavement say) can become an important and significant ceremony for both Mistress and slave. It is probably best to brand him where the mark will not be visible when the slave is in normal clothes or swimming trunks. Good areas are: the lower belly just above the cock, the outside of the hip and the buttocks.
My slave
In the home he is never permitted clothing of any sort. If we go out together or I send him out on an errand he must present the clothes he is going to wear for my approval. I do not decide what he should wear as this requires some effort on my part. My life is supposed to be easy so he decides and I merely give approval or not. It is often said that being a lifestyle Mistress is hard work. Believe me it is not. The secret is to make the slave do all the work (I use the term loosely) whilst you sit back and approve or not.
On return to the home he presents himself, bows and strips without command, puts on collar, cuffs and chains then kneels to await instructions.
Once again I do not have to think about this. It is a ritual he must remember and follow and I have a naked slave kneeling at my feet, ready to serve without having to say a word.
He has three ‘collars’; a wide heavy steel one with a padlock at the front which is worn for the majority of the time in the home, a narrower thin steel one with discrete fixing for situations where the heavy collar would be unsuitable and a steel neck chain with lock for all other occasions.
I do not like body hair on a slave and a smooth skin was an important requirement in choosing my slave. He knows that if I ever see a hair on his genital area or under his arms he will be caned. His head hair is also kept shaved smooth on a daily basis before he presents himself for inspection.
My slave has one brand and two tattoos. My initial ‘I’ is burnt into his right buttock and 'I' and 'B' are also tattooed on his belly. I am considering having the top of his head marked so I can see it when he is pleasuring me but have not yet carried this out.
9
CHASTITY
It is well know within BDSM circles that if you control the slave’s cock then you control the slave. Women who own male slaves have discovered that a denied and sexually frustrated male is compliant and submissive but a sexually fulfilled male is a lazy disrespectful man. So Mistresses have embraced the practice of male orgasm denial to limit the amount of orgasms their male has. This keeps him in a heightened submissive state. Orgasm denial can vary from the Mistress who allows her slave say one orgasm per week to those who think that one per month is sufficient for her male to keep his plumbing cleaned and his desire to serve at a maximum level. The male orgasm is a biological function that causes sexual release and relaxes both body and mind and is more like the eruption of a volcano than the waves of a rippling ocean that is the female orgasm. Thus men lose their desire to pleasure a woman after they have climaxed.
Keeping a male aroused but denied is the greatest and most effective technique a woman can employ for her own sexual fulfilment. Denying the slave orgasms is a real power rush and so easy to achieve. For the slave it is a constant reminder that his sexual desire, like everything else, is the property of his Mistress. It is her pleasure not the slave's that is important.
The benefits of male orgasm denial become much more apparent outside the bedroom if the slave is locked up and denied permanently. He will remain in a constant state of submission and subservience knowing that pleasing his Mistress in everything is his only chance for the release of his sexual frustration.
Let me say categorically that the Mistress requiring total attentiveness and subservience from her slave must impose a regime approaching total permanent denial. The slave must be allowed no access to his cock, permitted no masturbation or orgasm and, if possible, not even be allowed to obtain erection. He must learn that as a subservient he has no rights to any sexual pleasures and exists to provide sexual pleasures for his Mistress.
She can then further encourage her slave by offering say one orgasm per month but only if no more than a certain number of penalty points have been accrued by the slave in his general day to day servitude. There are no half measures where this is concerned so the woman who is serious about owning a real male slave should not shy away from total orgasm denial.