The topic of incest could also be mentioned as an example. Knowledgeable people will not have sex with the members of their blood family – no matter how attractive they are – because they know from other people's history what such actions can lead to. It could be said that such people choose not to have sex with their blood family’s members, and they choose not to have any sexual desires for their blood family’s members – no matter how “hot” they are.
Then I remembered how as a child, when I was still in elementary school, I sometimes began to daydream about what kind of [erroneous] sexual activity we could do with my friend when we saw each other again. But then, over time, I began to have sexual fantasies about girls – only about girls. I never thought about it, but now, as I am writing these lines, I understand that knowledge was the key. Over the course of my life, I realized that it was a mistake to have fantasies and sexual experience with a person of the same gender (to some extent I already understood this when I kept refusing to try oral sex for a long time).
I sometimes wondered in the past: “how during my next lives in a woman’s body I can be attracted to guys, if in this life I clearly like women?” And I sometimes I would realize that it would be logical to have a sexual desire for guys in a woman's body, since I would not have my current material knowledge. But in those days I could not connect that realization with psychology and with the cause of homosexuality. Now I understand another simplicity of life…
But there is someone else – a hermaphrodite (with fully functional genitals)… I would never have thought that I would have to talk about one of my wild, as well as rare, former fantasies… What can I say, nothing stays hidden for long… Here is the interesting thing here. In such fantasies, I imagined a person with the psychology of a female, and I often thought that if the hermaphrodite looked and behaved more like a male than a female (and therefore he would be perceived as a guy and not a woman), then I would not be attracted to “him” emotionally. But if that hermaphrodite looks and behaves like a female, and it is perceived as a female, then I have no problem imagining having sex with “her”. It turns out that we can either like or dislike sexually an absolutely identical person just because of the way he is perceived and seen by us in our minds. Psychology is very important, and psychological data also influence what decisions we make… By the way, if that imaginary hermaphrodite behaved in a balanced manner, having in his behavior the features of a woman and a man, then I think I would not mind being with “her”.
Here I can see a possible connection with my lucid dream, where I was in the girl's body, and I remember exactly that she liked guys (in fact – “me”, but I think it is better to write about that segment of the lucid sleep in the third person). This was due to psychology and the way she saw the world around her; and I have never experienced that psychological sensation during my entire life in my current male physical body (which I am, pretty much, happy about). But how are hormones related to the fact that I could really feel “what women want” in that lucid dream then? I will not repeat my reflections, which I already wrote about right after that dream; but we humans still have a lot to learn… I also understand that the psychological vision of that girl's world could be a consequence of her bisexuality, but due to the fact that I encountered the above feelings for the first time, I went to the extreme – that is, if this assumption is correct, then that girl liked both guys and girls, and not just guys, as I wrote earlier (after all, she happily began kissing with her female friend). To some extent, this experience confirms the above conclusions regarding the probable reasons for homosexuality caused by neurosis.
I will say again that you do not need to build psychological barriers and run away from your feelings. Here I also know from my own experience what I am talking about. I deliberately set myself at least two psychological blocks – and regretted it. Then, when I had certain urges for handsome guys, I did not run away from that, but I realized what was happening and I realized my mistake; I began to live in the present and accept things for what they are, and not for what they seemed to me. As a result, I am quite a full-fledged heterosexual.
Here we could remember about anonymous alcoholic clubs where all people in turn get up and say: “Hello, my name is [name], and I'm an alcoholic”. Those words are very important, since it is impossible to eliminate the problem if you refuse to recognize its existence – after all, knowledge plays a primary role in what decisions we make, and if you do not have knowledge, or you block it in your memory, then your decisions will not be able to solve a problem that does not exist in your head. Unfortunately, this topic is also close to me, since my father often refused to admit his problem of alcoholism, and every time my mother and I tried to talk to him about it, he quickly tried to change the topic. The reason lay in the psyche. A person without psychological problems can speak about absolutely any topic and not experience any discomfort during that. I myself have experience with psychological issues, and now I can, by and large, speak calmly about them, since I was able to remove many psychological problems from my life, and I try to work on eliminating the rest.
Here it is worth remembering that even though the phrase “mental illness” contains the word “illness”, as I happened to learn from my life experience, mental illnesses are not illnesses (if the reason does not lie outside the psyche – for example, in the physical or physiological body). People have psychological problems due to lack of certain knowledge, as a result of which those people make erroneous decisions in their lives. Such people should educate themselves, and then self-discipline, striving to live a correct, error-free life. Meditation and concentration can help a person gain control of his body and mind.
Note that there have already been many cases where unnecessary words in established phrases have led some people to wrong decisions. Recently, I came across an interesting video (https://youtu.be/D1-WuBbVe2E) which said how in ancient times there was no word “blue”; and then in that video it was said how the people of the Himba people in Namibia, not having a separate word for “blue”, cannot distinguish a blue circle among green ones as quickly as people who have a word for blue do. Words can have a big impact on how we psychologically perceive the world around us, and therefore we should better choose the words we use.
Personally, I have no doubts about the correctness of the main conclusions that I made for myself about homosexuals and transgender people. But I understand that other people can, and most likely will, have their own opinions on these two topics, since the truth is very simple…