"A really hilarious thing happened last week…," Sabrina interrupted. "Lewis was driving their small Volkswagen home at about three in the morning. Ethel was laughing so hard that she cried as she told me what had happened to them. It seems that Lewis got a hard-on that became quite painful. Ethel bent over to unzip him. Ethel masturbated his bulging cock. Then she bent down to suck it. Ethel got Lewis so sexed-up that he ran their little blue VW right into the side of a telephone pole. By the time the police arrived Lewis had zipped-up. Lewis told them he slid in a puddle of water. Ethel almost laughed out loud as the policeman gave him a ticket for restless driving!"
"From now on…," Lewis related, "I'll jerk my own meat off!"
"Anthony and I are really hot for each other by the time that we've said good-bye to our guests. I am still wet and warm between my thighs. Anthony's rod is usually half-hard by then. We may sit on the couch and talk for a few moments reliving the singular thrills of the evening. We both get excited talking about our passioned sexual involvements. My hands move to Anthony's dick! I push aside the casual robe he is wearing. My lips move hungrily to his dick."
"This is the best moment of all!"- Anthony sighs, abandoning himself to me.
"My lips move hungrily, searching for the hidden sweetness that lies within…," Sabrina smiles. "I suck hard until my husband is fully erected. Then Anthony pushes me down on the couch. His rigid phallus is throbbing with passion as he mounts me. He drives his red hot organ deep inside me. He slowly pumps me towards my most intense climax. We take our time, moving our bodies together like two strangers. We softly explore all of the wonderful sensations that our bodies have to offer. When that desire gets urgent and insistent we tear at each other. Anthony slips his hands under my ass. He pushes me upward. I dig my fingernails into his shoulders. I moan softly, urging him on with voice and hand. Our bodies become one as a passionate orgasm spreads like fire between us. Our climax is usually simultaneous."
"Afterward, we're both ready to sleep…," Sabrina smiles. "That fire we thought had gone from our bodies is there, waiting just beneath the surface to be re-kindled. I trust my husband in everything. He feels that same way about me. We are sexually mature and compatible. We*re not unstable or neurotic. We've just found a good thing… and we want to share it with everyone. Really-I guess you might say that 'swapping'-is a very unselfish way of loving!"
PSYCHOLOGICAL COMMENT:
This case history illustrates that not all "swingers" and "swappers" are low-class persons from an illiterate- or semi-illiterate background. Surprising as it may seem authorities indicate that wife-swapping is a harmless activity that often produces some remarkable results in strengthening any basically secure marriage.
Harvey T. Leathern notes in THE SEXUAL VARIANTS…
"Contrary to all the inner turmoil and emotional involvement that goes with the typical extra-marital affair-the sexual activity known as wife-swapping is a purely physical indulgence, sexually speaking, and is undertaken with surprisingly few negative results to the practitioners."(16)
Swapping is usually indulged in by very erotically-minded couples who already enjoy every aspect of sexual compatibility with their own mates. Anyone who is frigid or fearful of sex would hardly seek admittance into a distinct swapping group. Swappers are usually erotically experienced and sexually versatile. Their problem may be that their desires are over-zealous and in some cases slight nymphomania and satyriasis may be noticed.
Swappers then are usually familiar with most of the variations of the sexual act. Some may be heterosexual, some homosexual, other bisexual-but all have one thing in common-they enjoy SEX. Because they are seeking new and greater thrills they often band together to enjoy broader sexual experiences.
As Harvey T. Leathern notes in THE SEXUAL VARIANTS…
"Again it should be emphasized that this 'sweetening' of the marital act, by the indulgence is promiscuous and orgiastic intercourse, only occurs with those couples who greatly enjoy sexual intercourse with each other already. And, in spite of the fact that a number of blasй young couples practice wife-swapping, most such activities are performed by older couples who have been married for a fairly lengthy period of time." (16)
Swappers then are not likely to be emotionally immature or sexually inexperienced. In this case Sabrina and Anthony are well-educated, financially secure, and sexually curious in addition to being polymorphous and perverse. Both find that swapping increases their desire for one another and arouses their latent sexual passions to the peak where they find repeated orgasms desirable.
Swapping is more of a physical involvement than an emotional one. Usually swappers are very much in love' with their own mates, but find that repeated sexual bouts with partners other than their own husband or wife excite their physical senses without leading to strong emotional senses without involvements such as are incurred with the extra-marital affair. Swapping then becomes permissive adultery among both married partners.
Authorities estimate that from five to eight million married men and women become involved in mate-sharing during their lives. This includes every possible and imaginable combination of sexual activity.
While Sabrina's and Anthony's sexual desires seem normal it is quite obvious that Grant's fondness for urinating within the vaginas of his partners is slightly deviate. Although it is not often discussed many men derive varying amounts of sexual pleasure from the scatological act of urinating either in the woman's mouth or in her pudenda. It is a form of psychosexual sadism in which the sadist (most often male) defiles and humiliates his partner. Most often such men are sexually cruel and have little regard for their partners. In most cases men who peruse these ends have little realization as to the origin of their own motivations. Yet an in-depth analysis of their motivations will reveal that such men think of women as little better than prostitutes. Many men are incapable of authentically loving any woman they have sex with since they view the sexual act itself as both vile and disgusting. In such cases many males choose to psychologically or sexually humiliate women and defile them.
Any abnormal interest in urination or defecation is known as 'scatology' in the terminology of those well-versed in the psychosexual field. As author Roger Blake notes in his study, CASEBOOK: FEMALE BEHAVIOR…
"Scatology, or abnormal interest in the processes and products of elimination, is one of the most difficult of the sexual abnormalities for the average person to comprehend, Generally speaking, it is a most unpleasant subject with which to deal. Yet the fact remains, that in its milder degrees it is one of the most common forms of erotic inspiration, and in more pronounced degrees it is not at all uncommon." (7)
Any abnormal interest in urination, and in the sexual abuse of such natural acts, is known as urolagnia. We may conclude that Grant's interest in urinary violation of the female vagina is a form of sadism involving his wish to degrade and humiliate his female sexual partner by 'defiling' her with his unsanitary waste material.
Sabrina notes that she found such a practice offensive, while she concludes she found no other erotic practice distasteful. Obviously Sabrina has no masochistic motivations and does not appreciate Grant's attempts to defile her. Which indicates that Sabrina is undoubtedly more mature and well-adjusted than her erolagniac partner. Of all the swapping members in their intimate little group Grant is probably the least stable and most immature.
Generally speaking, I find no indication that Sabrina and Anthony are in any need of psychotherapeutic help. But husband and wife seem well-adjusted and very much in love with one another. Swapping seems to have increased their desire for one another. Indeed it seems to have made their marriage a more intimate and responsive affair.