She took a deep breath and what she told me next was not at all what I expected.
“Margot, people assume that Trinh became dependent on me because I reached out to her. But the opposite was true. I needed her help more than she ever needed mine.”
I never thought about Mom needing help from anyone. She always seemed so competent in everything she undertook. So in charge. Curious, I asked, “What did you need her help with?”
“Where to begin?” She took a moment to decide that before she began to tell me. I leaned back, looked across the yard that had given her and Dad so much happiness, and listened.
“You know, dear, that your father and I were deeply opposed when your brother, Mark, enlisted in the army with the intention of serving in Vietnam.” I was very young, but I would never forget the night Mark dropped that bombshell on our peacenik parents. “When Mark was killed over there, I was so angry and so bereft that your father began to worry about my sanity. I was ready to go to Washington to take out that huddle of sanctimonious old bastards who perpetrated the damn war.”
“I remember, Mom,” I said. “But you worked your way through it, you came back to us.”
“Thanks in no small part to Trinh,” she said. “My son died in a place I knew nothing about, among strangers. We received a flag-draped coffin with about twenty pounds of scorched flesh and bone sealed in a plastic bag with a new uniform, neatly folded, inside. But most of my boy was still in a jungle, unburied, unidentified. If I could have, I would have gone over there and found him and brought him home.
“Father John took me by the hand and walked me down to Trinh’s house. He asked her to describe Mark’s resting place for me, to tell me all about the people who were around him. And she did; she was wonderful. She told me about her own family and what the war had done to them. It was helpful, but it wasn’t until later, when the war collapsed that I was able to put my grief in perspective and get on with life.”
“Why?”
“The floodtide of people who came in,” she said. “Do you remember?”
“You brought a family home with you. I remember sharing my clothes.”
“Most of the families in the parish took in a refugee family that summer,” she said with a laugh. “That was Father John’s doing: ‘Say three Hail Marys, take in a family and sin no more.’”
“Sounds like Father John,” I said.
“Yes. But what Trinh did was far more important,” she said. “She took me with her to the refugee camp in the Presidio-a huge tent city. There were so few services, and so many people who came over here with nothing. We were able to help, to really help. It was the best therapy in the world for me. I couldn’t do anything for Mark, but I had something to offer people who got snagged in the same fuckup.”
“Language, Mom.”
She laughed.
I said, “Mr. B told me that some people took out their anger about Vietnam on his wife.”
“Some people are idiots,” she said. “Even among the refugees Trinh helped there were people who resented her for the comforts of her life, or for who her father was or was not. Some people need enemies.”
“Did she have enemies?”
“Trinh? I wouldn’t think so. But she may have inherited a few. You know, dear, the sins of the fathers…”
“Ouch,” I said.
“Which reminds me.” She went through a list of instructions for disposing of Dad’s research notes. She finished with a non sequitur: “Did you know that Father John is back in the parish again?”
“I heard.”
“He’ll probably say a blessing at the Bartolinis’ party Saturday. Just to be on the safe side, will you ask him to say a rosary for your brother?”
“Sure.” I started to say she could ask him herself. Instead, I asked, “Mom, what happened between you and Father John?”
“The right to choose.”
That was explanation enough.
“Gracie said something about your piano.”
“Yes.” She suddenly sounded enthusiastic. “I want to ship it to Ricardo’s studio instead of your house.”
“Sure.” Ricardo, my former roommate’s father-in-law, was a retired high school music teacher. When his son and daughter-in-law, Roger and Kate, built their home in a canyon near my own home, they also built two casitas-little houses-one for Roger’s parents and another for his grown children from his first marriage. Out of self-defense, Kate and Roger had added a sound-proofed music studio at the back of their property for Ricardo, whose music indeed made a joyful noise. I asked Mom, “What’s up?”
“I told you how much fun I had teaching Ricardo’s piano students when he and Linda were out of town.”
“You did,” I said. “Are you planning to take on students of your own?”
“Just a few, yes,” she said. “Ricardo offered me the use of his studio; we’ll work out a schedule. But beyond that, dear, Kate and Roger made me an offer that I did not refuse.”
“Should I be worried?”
“No, not all. In fact, the opposite,” she said. “Margot, Kate and Roger offered me the second casita.”
“For piano lessons?”
“No, dear, to live in.”
“Good God,” I said. “Gracie will think you’ve been sucked into a cult.”
“If I have, it’s a lovely one,” she said, laughing. “And now, dear, you won’t have to worry about me being alone. I know that the reason you have resisted starting your film project about Isabelle’s family is that you did not want to leave me alone while you were off shooting in Normandy.”
“The reason I haven’t started the film is that the network has not approved funding.”
“Then call your Uncle Max and have him light a fire under those network people as he always does. And go to Normandy. I know it’s what you want to do.”
“I’ll work on it.” If only it were that easy.
When Mom had her mind made up, it was pointless trying to argue with her. The truth was, though my producer had approved the Normandy project, the network goons had not. And maybe would not. Even my Uncle Max, who was both my lawyer and my agent, had not been able to budge them this time. The issue, I was beginning to understand, was not the project, but me.
When we said good-bye, I gathered my dishes and headed back inside, thinking, tomorrow is another day.
I washed my glass and bowl and went upstairs to try on Mom’s black dress. It draped, it twirled, it fit quite well; the knit fabric was accommodating. Mom, who is taller than I am, had to wear flats with the dress. With heels, the length would be just fine for me. I had a dress to wear Friday night.
Mom owned a small collection of family jewelry that she left behind for my cousin Susan and me to divide. Other than the ruby earrings that Mom still wore-the matching necklace had gone to someone else a generation earlier-there was nothing of significant monetary value in the lot. Because I had no genetic or legal relationship to Mom or her family, I had qualms about keeping for myself anything that had come from her side of the family, even though Mom had scolded me to get over my reluctance.
From Isabelle, my late bio-mom, I had already inherited some very nice and very old pieces of jewelry that I appreciated for their beauty, but that had no significance to me; I never knew Isabelle. On the other hand, there were several things that I remembered Mom wearing on special occasions, and that made them precious to me. But sweet, warm memories did not change my opinion about rightful ownership.
The best piece rested inside a flat red leather box; a late nineteenth-century brooch shaped like a dragonfly. It was big, nearly three inches from wingtip to wingtip, but it weighed almost nothing. The body and wings were little more than open platinum filigree studded with bright gemstones: garnet, opal, tourmaline, zircon, peridot. I knew it was the signature on the back that made it valuable, and not the materials it was made from. And for me, all of its value was in its association with Mom. When she wore the rummage-sale black dress, she wore the brooch pinned high on her shoulder, as if the dragonfly had just landed there and was about to take off again. To a kid-me-it was magic.