There were many things about today that I’d not been looking forward to, but probably highest on the list was this initial encounter with Marie. I had no idea how I should greet her or what I should say, and these questions were still playing on my mind right up to the point when she and my mother were exchanging an awkward handshake. It was only then that I noticed – something I hadn’t noticed when I’d inspected her across the distance of the foyer. She looked surprisingly vulnerable. Maybe it was that she was standing next to Fran, who had never looked vulnerable in her life, or maybe it was the slight tremble I detected when she smiled thinly at my mum. Whatever the case, it caused me to do a last-minute rethink. I abandoned my own handshake and, standing on tiptoes, kissed her on both cheeks.
There followed a short, peculiar silence. She was obviously as surprised as I was, but at least she seemed to understand that my action hadn’t been intended as mockery.
‘I like your bow,’ she said after a moment, gesturing at my headband.
‘I like your outfit in general,’ I told her. Then: ‘I’m sorry for your loss.’
‘Likewise.’ There might have been a small barb at this point; I’m not certain. But either way, I didn’t have a reply. There wasn’t really anything else we could say to each other.
Fortunately, it was at this instant that I felt a tap on my shoulder. It was Beck, looking slightly flushed, as if he’d been rushing.
‘You okay?’ he asked.
‘Do you mean today or in general?’
‘I mean both.’
‘I’m okay,’ I told him.
Then he held me until the service began. I didn’t think it was something I could read too much into, but this didn’t really matter right then. It just felt good to be held, and that was enough.
I buried my face in his chest; and on a day when almost everything felt awkward and unnatural, this did not.
The service was simple, and over quickly. Non-religious, of course. No singing, no praying – although we were invited, at one point, to partake of a short silence so that each of us could remember Daddy in whatever way seemed most appropriate. I thought about a time when I was six or seven and he bought me an ice cream after I grazed my knee. Not a very remarkable memory, but one of the better ones.
I don’t know if Francesca wrote the eulogy herself or if it was cobbled together by the officiant, based on what Fran and Marie had told him, but in any case, it was a masterpiece of the genre: a five-minute biography consisting almost entirely of suspicious holes. Fran and I got a mention – his ‘two wonderful daughters’! – but our mother was left out of the story entirely, as if my father had had us grown in a lab. Marie was the ‘beautiful partner he leaves behind’, and although they’d been together for less than a year, we were informed that in this time they’d enjoyed a ‘deep, deep happiness’. That might even have been true – who knows? Less than a year was a plausible time-frame for a happy relationship with my father. Nevertheless, if this had been a trial rather than a funeral, there’d have been a very long queue of women waiting to testify for the prosecution.
The sanitized personal history was followed by a much longer inventory of his achievements at work. His colleagues, apparently, would remember him as a natural and charismatic leader, one with ‘a ready smile and a wicked sense of humour’. And he was generous, too; there was an anecdote about an occasion when he bought champagne for everyone in the office, and then a brief reference to his being a ‘passionate supporter of a number of charities’, though these charities were not listed (I was fairly sure that the only person, dead or alive, who would have been able to provide such a list would have been my father’s accountant). Towards the end, there was also a joke about his love of expensive cars – ‘his other children’ – which provoked several guffaws from his work friends.
So that was my father in a nutshelclass="underline" basically, he was Jesus with a Jaguar.
‘Well, what did you expect?’ Beck asked me afterwards. ‘A catalogue of crimes and misdemeanours?’
‘Why not? That’s what I want in my eulogy. In fact, I want you to promise me right now: if I should die tomorrow, you are to tell the truth – the full truth. Here’s a first line to get you started: “Abby could be a real pain in the arse sometimes . . .” After that, I want you to list every one of my faults. Leave nothing out.’
‘Christ! How long do you want this eulogy to last?’
‘Okay, fair point. So cap the bad stuff at five minutes. Then you can finish by telling them I was kind to animals and had nice handwriting. It’s important to end on a positive note.’
The post-funeral reception was at Fran and Adam’s, and although their flat was twice as large as the one I shared – had shared – with Beck, that still meant little room to accommodate the twenty or so people who came back from the crematorium. It was hot and crowded, and entailed yet more uncomfortable conversations with people I barely knew.
So before long, inevitably, I found myself smoking on the balcony; and before long, inevitably, Marie came out to join me. No one else was there because no one else could be there. Fran’s ‘balcony’ was typical of a central London new-build: more a ledge with a safety rail. Marie and I both leaned on this rail for some time, facing out over the street and saying nothing.
‘I had a friend who was in a psychiatric hospital once,’ she told me eventually. ‘Anorexia.’ As conversation starters went, this was not the best, but there was something in her voice that conveyed more than her words.
‘What happened to her?’ I asked after a moment or two.
Marie shrugged. ‘She nearly died, then she got better. It’s still a battle, though. Most days.’
The fact that Marie would know a detail like this last one confirmed my suspicions.
‘I’m sorry I was horrible to you. You know, at the restaurant. It was my father I was angry with, not you.’
‘I know.’
‘I didn’t like my father very much.’
She laughed, a small laugh devoid of humour. ‘Yes, I know that too.’
‘But that doesn’t mean I didn’t love him.’
I wasn’t sure how well this sentiment was expressed, or even if there was a genuine sentiment there, or just wishful thinking.
Marie turned to look at me for a moment, as if gauging something, then reached into her handbag. ‘I have something for you. I didn’t know if you’d want it, but . . . well, you decide.’
It was the postcard, the one I’d sent from Lindisfarne. ‘He kept it.’
‘He was pleased that you were feeling better.’
I stared at the card for a while, front and back. My message, my final contact with Daddy, ended with a small x. There were worse ways it could have ended.
I stubbed out my cigarette on the railing. No ashtray, of course.
‘Marie, I’m going to leave now. I hope you’re happy again – in the future.’
She nodded once in acknowledgement, then turned back to the city. ‘I hope you’re happy too.’
Inside, I found Beck talking to one of the distant relatives. I touched him lightly on the arm. ‘Would you mind getting me out of here?’ I asked him. ‘Perhaps we could go for a coffee?’ I cut straight across whatever my second cousin once removed was saying, but this seemed rather trivial at this point. Beck let me steer him towards to the door, and a couple of minutes later, we were out in the fresh air.
Going for a coffee turned out to be more complicated than expected. It was close to lunchtime, and close to Christmas, so everywhere was packed. Standing room only in Starbucks, same in Costa. I thought, for a while, that we could just walk and talk, but it soon became apparent that this wasn’t really an option either. The streets were almost as crowded as the coffee shops: a constant tide of people to negotiate, Band Aid blaring from every open door. In the end, we decided to go back to the flat – our flat. It was the only choice, really.