SM 101, 119n
soap, antibacterial, 31
Society for Human Sexuality, 66n
Sodom, 14
sodomy laws, 14
speculum, 75
sphincter muscles, 21-30, 53, 77, 79, 88-89, 120-121; external, 23, 27; internal, 23, 27; relaxation, 23, 33, 59-60, 88, 120-121
STD see sexually-transmitted disease
Stewart, Susan Cobb, 38n, 129n
Story of O, The, 6, 119n
stress, 33, 121-122
submission, 5, 98, 112-115
surrender, 28, 41, 96
Susie Bright’s Sexual State of the Union, 20n
Susie Sexpert’s Lesbian Sex World, 48n
sweat, 126
Sweeney, Robin, 119n
syphilis, 127-128
tailbone, 22, 27, 29
“Taking Him on a Sunday Afternoon,” 101n
tantric sex, 5
testis, 29
tetracycline, 127-128
therapists, 7
thigh harness, 62
Thompson, Mark, 119n
tongue, 51, 81-85
top, 96, 106, 112
touching, 33-34
transgender, 5
transverse colon, 67
trust, 10, 47-48, 90
Trust: The Hand Book
A Guide to the Sensual and Spiritual Art of Handballing, 6, 38n, 74n, 101n, 111n
Trust/The Handballing Newsletter, Try, 6
Turkey baster, 72
U
urethra, 22, 29, 32
urethral sponge, 22, 28; see also G-spot
urinary tract infection, 32, 54
urination, painful, 121-122; after
penetrative sex, 32-33, 121
uterus, 22
vagina, 22, 51, 55, 75-76, 82, 84, 87, 100, 105-106, 122
vaginal discharge, 126
vaginal douche, 72
Vaseline, 59
vibrator, 1, 5, 10, 60-61, 78, 80, 87-88,93, 96, 110
volatile nitrites, 46
vulnerability, 1, 90
Web sites, 65
Westheimer, Dr. Ruth, 6, 37, 38n
Wet, 57
Wet Light, 57
White, Rose, 91, 101n
winking, 88
Winks; Cathy, 20n, 38n, 66n
Wiseman, Jay, 119n
Women’s HIV Sourcebook, The, 36, 38n
women’s movement, 75
Y
yeast infection, 32, 54, 126
Your Sexual Health, 129n
Zovirax’, 127
Acknowledgments
There are so many people whom I’d like to thank for their contributions to this project.
To Felice Newman and Frederique Delacoste, for their time, devotion, and gracious understanding of an insanely hectic schedule. Special thanks to Felice, to whom this book is dedicated, for going beyond the call—and even farther than that.
To Susie Bright, Pat Califia, everyone at Good Vibrations, Nina Hartley, Bert Herrman, Jack Morin, Carol Queen, Anne Semans, and Cathy Winks for their extraordinary, groundbreaking work.
To Robert Morgan for unbelievable generosity and kindness.
To Tammy Fortin at Aardvark Books, The New York Public Library Amazon.com, the Society for Human Sexuality, and San Francisco Sex Information for research assistance.
To Nancy Bereano of Firebrand Books, Joan Nestle, Greg Constante of Alyson Publications, Pat Califia, and Sarah Miller for permission to reprint their work.
To Russ Kick, Bill Brent, and The Black Book for tremendous help with the resource guide.
To Karen Green, Don Spargo, Jr., and Rosana Francescato for insightful editorial advice.
To Tom Bates for making a whole lot possible. To Chip Rowe for being The Man.
To Thia “Fish” Jennings for her wit, her understanding, and her brilliant illustrations.
To everyone who responded to my survey for being so generous and sharing intimate details of their lives.
To Kate Bornstein, Bree Coven, Morgan Dunbar, Gerry Gomez Pearlberg, Mario Grillo, Colin Hall, Ron Lieber, Dan Mitchell, Audrey Prins-Patt, Janet Schomer, and D. Travers Scott for their friendship, love, and support.
To Karen Green for too much to even name.
To Winston Wilde for being my daddy.
To my mother, Judith Pynchon, for always supporting me.
And, finally, to my dogs, Reggie Love and Jordan Love, who are my constant companions during late-night research, reading, writing, and revisions.
About the Author
Tristan Taormino is series editor of the annual collection Best Lesbian Erotica, for which she has collaborated with guest editors Heather Lewis, Jewelle Gomez, and Jenifer Levin. She is co-editor of A Girl’s Guide To Taking Over the World: Writings from the Girl Zine Revolution, (NY: St. Martin’s Press, 1997) and Ritual Sex (NY: Rhinoceros Books, 1996) a collection of writing on sex, religion and spirituality. She is also publisher and editrix of the pan-sexual erotic magazine Pucker Up. Her writing appears in several publications and anthologies, including The Femme Mystique, Heatwave: Women in Love and Lust, Sex Spoken Here, Chick-Lit 2, and Virgin Territory II, as well as On Our Backs, Sojourner, The Boston Phoenix, The Advocate, X-X-X Fruit, Venus Infers, and Blue Blood. The Advocate named her one of the Best and Brightest Gay and Lesbian People Under 30. She lives in Brooklyn.
About the Illustrator
Fish is an illustrator and cartoonist whose credits include the zine Brat Attack and The Topping Book and The Bottoming Book. You can find her work at http://www.devildog.com.
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