Prostate Massage—From the Outside-In
If he’s not yet relaxed enough to desire your finger inside, you can still caress his P-spot from the outside.
While you’re engaged in hot oral activity, run your lubed fingers down behind his scrotum onto his taint. Your teasing fingertips will feel extraordinary, but as soon as you increase the pressure, you can indirectly stimulate his prostate.
Vary the sensations with firmer pressures and circular strokes, together with your hand- or blowjob, and you’ll give him a truly amazing orgasm. You’ll also awaken the nerve endings at the opening of his anus.Will this tempt him to try finger buttplay next time?
The Rules to Buttplay
When unlocking his backdoor, keep these keys in mind:
Cleanliness. Good hygiene creates a more comfortable experience. Have him wash up with a hot shower or bath, and suggest he “go” an hour or two beforehand.
Communication. Comfort begins with trust, and trust starts with good communication. If you both agree to go really slowly and to communicate openly and honestly through the entire experience—you’ll be just fine.
Relaxation. Prepare him for pleasure by massaging his inner butt-cheeks and inner thighs.This helps get his blood flowing into the area and relaxes his body and butt muscles (a little spanking will help, too!). The best primer for buttplay is sex—so enjoy a hot first round of orgasms before heading to the backside. Remember: the more he relaxes, the better your buttplay can be.
Lubrication. Always use lube. The anus does not self-lubricate enough for anal play, and dryness can cause injury to delicate anal and rectal tissue. So B.Y.O.L.—and keep applying it generously. Choose a good lube and be sure to keep it within close reach. Caution: lube is absolutely necessary during buttplay.
Safety. Wash hands with anti-bacterial soap, take off all rings, and be sure nails are smoothly fi!ed—no hangnails! Examine all sex toys to be sure there are no sharp edges—especially on plastic toys that sometimes have rough seams. Just file them down with an emery board.
Ease into it. Start slowly and gradually: your timing, mood, space and vibe need to be just right. Start with simple pleasures, such as massaging only the butt and anus. Then slowly move on to rimming and other exterior techniques.
Easing inside. The anal canal curves toward the front of the body, so your fingers and toys should be flexible enough to curve with it. Go sloooowly when entering and never pull out quickly. Be gentle, and always use lots of lube.
No double-dipping. Be extra careful not to transfer bacteria from the anus to any other parts of the body. Whether you’re inserting a tongue, toy or finger into the anus, don’t insert them into any other orifice—yours or his—till they’re washed and clean.
Orgasmic synergy. Most men and women require direct genital stimulation to orgasm—few people have orgasms by anal stimulation alone. So be sure to add in other pleasures simultaneously—like the awesome hand- and blowjobs you’re now even better at!
Take your time. This is an adventure—be patient and don’t rush.Your guy may need extra time to get used to it. So go slow and enjoy it!
Buttplay Positions
Try them all till you find your favorites! Here are a few to get you started:
With your guy on his back, sit between his legs so he can see you.
Lay him face-down on the bed, and place pillows under his hips.
Lay him on his side in spoon position, with you behind.
Get behind him while he’s on all fours. Now drop his shoulders to the bed.
Try 69, with him on top.
The Buttplay Blastoff
How far in will he like it? Take it one level at a time:
Level 1: Orbiting His Anus—Land Massage
During one of your best blowjobs, pause and seductively whisper,“Do you want me to rock your world like never before?” When he gasps “YES!” slowly slip your lubed fingers onto his taint and begin massaging. Before you resume your world-class blowjob, say, “It would make me so hot to play around back here.”
No objections? Then begin seducing his anus by running your fingers all around the area, slowly circling his anus. Lightly press one lubed fingertip onto his anus, while you continue pleasuring his penis. Then rub in circular motions, slowly brushing your finger around its outer edges, then rock back and forth in the center. Ohhhh… does that feel good!
Level 2: Probing Inner Space—Galactic Finger Play
Did your soft, warm fingertip drive him crazy? Would a little more of your finger drive him even crazier? Then try this…
With your hot breath on his excited penis, and your lubed fingertip nestled against his anus, ask him seductively if he’d like a little more of you inside. No? Then you’ve found his limit. Yes? Suggest he relax all around your fingertip. When you feel his anus slacken, your lubed finger will seem to slip magically inside his sensitive canal all by itself.
Buttplay boosters. Always stimulate his penis with a primo hand- or blowjob while you’re playing with his butt. It’ll make the whole experience feel better, as you blend the euphoric sensations of buttplay with the erotic sensations of the blowjob. If he was apprehensive about it beforehand, this will help calm his fears.
Once you’re inside about an inch, stay perfectly still so he can get used to this new erotic sensation. Keep stroking his penis. Then, ever so slowly, move in a little , further, curving your finger with the natural curve of his canal, and begin in-‘n-out pleasure. Remember: play with his penis at all times during buttplay. Proceed with your first-class blowjob, or switch to a primo handjob!
Level 3: Planet P-Spot—Warp Drive
Now he’s ready for the best in buttplay. Slowly begin searching with your index finger, fingerprint side-up, a little further into his anus along the upper wall. As soon as your knuckle disappears inside, start feeling around for a firm, round bulb that feels like the end of your nose—that’s his prostate!
Now start making slow, gentle come hither-type curling motions with your finger—just like you’re ticking him under his chin. Then focus on his reactions, and ask whether the motion would feel better harder, softer, faster or slower. You’ll know you’ve got it right when his legs spread wider, his breathing gets faster, he’s riding your finger—and if he’s a vocal guy, he starts vocalizing.
Rimming
What happens when he feels the sensation of the tip of your tongue on the rim of his anus? Nirvana!
After plenty of heated foreplay, slide your tongue in between his butt-cheeks and get creative! Ravish him by going round ’n round, and keep stimulating him by flicking soft and slow, or lick him with your full-on tongue.Try slight probing with the very tip, pressing into him like you’re ringing a doorbell. Don’t forget to pleasure him with your hand, too. For a real thrill, spread his cheeks wide apart for uninhibited access.