The grand finale. Carefully rinse everything with warm water and pat dry. Apply a non-stinging, alcohol- and fragrance-free, hypoallergenic aftershave balm or gel to soothe and moisturize—but hold off on this till later if you’re about to have sex.
Reduce stubble and itching. His hair will immediately begin to grow back, along with the irresistible need to scratch himself in public. Shave again to reduce itching, keep reapplying lotion, and assure him the itching will decrease over time. V
6. SLIPPERY STUFF
I’m always curious when a woman tells me she’s never used a sex lubricant—or gave up after a ho-hum experience with just one. She doesn’t know what she’s missing!
A good lube is essential for great handjobs and good sex. It’ll do more than prevent chafing and irritation—it’ll actually “wake up” pleasure receptors in your skin.Touch that feels good before lube feels more alive the instant you apply it. I don’t know how any guy could stand a handjob without it!
Good lubes are so widely available, it’s easy to find the right one for you and your guy. Look in drugstores and supermarkets near the condoms or feminine-protection sections, and in sex toy stores and lingerie boutiques. Or just go online.
But don’t be intimidated by the choices—lightweight, heavyweight, ultra-thick, water-, silicone-, oil-based, flavored, natural. I’m here to help glide you down the pleasure path to figure out which one you can start slathering all over your guy’s penis, your toys, and each other. C’mon!
Nature’s Lubricant
Did you know you’ve already got a dispenser full of sex lube with you? Saliva.
This cost-free natural liquid is everyone’s instant lube for tongue kissing, but it’s often overlooked as a great starter lube for handjobs. Of course, most people simply can’t keep up with the demand, so they have a bottle of lube on hand, too.
To keep your saliva flowing, remember to drink plenty of water throughout the day, and keep a glass by the bedside to wet your mouth.To increase your liquid output, try massaging yourself right under the jaw to jumpstart your salivary glands, or suck on sour candy.
Water-Based Lubes
H2O is necessary for life, and now it’s essential for the slipperiest sex, too.
Water-based lubricants are today’s best, safest starter lubes. They come in free-flowing liquids, or longer-lasting jellies and gels; and in fruity flavors to add zest to oral sex. A few are even FDA-approved for vaginal use, which also means they’re safe to use with condoms.
Rejuvenate to lubricate. Water-based lubes can lose their slick in the heat of passion.You can either reapply, or use a few drops of saliva or water to quickly reactivate your lube. Try it!
For easy clean-up, choose a colorless formula so it’ll wash out of sheets, bedspreads, and any couch where you might get unexpectedly frisky. After sex, just wipe down with a warm washcloth or take a steamy shower.
Silicone-Based Lubes
Why try silicone if water-based lubes work so well? You decide:
Silicone Pros. More slippery, lasts longer, stays slick in water, doesn’t get absorbed into the skin, virtually never dries out in the heat of passion, good for massages, recommended for anal play.
Silicone Cons. Tougher after-sex clean-up, not watersoluble, not recommended for vaginal sex and will “melt” silicone toys.
The rule of thumb? Choose your lube based on how you plan to use it. Silicone is good for anal sex due to its longer lasting consistency, but you’ll have to wait till it exits naturally. And it’s good for waterplay in the tub or shower, but can make the floor dangerously slippery.
Oil-Based Lubes
Oil-based lubes are created especially for out-of-this-world handjobs and male masturbation only. They’re never a wise choice if you’re planning to enjoy intercourse—they can promote unpleasant vaginal infections.They’re also not condom compatible because they can degrade the latex.
Flavored Lubes
If you like your oral sex a little sweeter, give flavored lubes a swirl. Try the always-popular strawberry, as well as raspberry, kiwi and many others that are more than likable—they’re lickable.
Most are water-based and latex-friendly. They’ll usually wash right out of the sheets.And the fruity flavor can also help mask scents you may not enjoy, such as latex and rubber from condoms and toys.
The strawberry penis! Flavored lubes are perfect for enhancing a guy’s scent, which can make going down a lot sweeter.
Which Lube for You?
Women ask me all the time to recommend a long-lasting lube that’s safe for the body. I tell them to start with those sample sizes you can pick up for about a buck, or a small bottle—then embark on a “scientific” mission with your guy till you score the loudest “Ohhh Yessss!!!” Rate each one for overall lasting time and slickness, resistance to stickiness, and pleasing taste and texture.
I personally wasn’t satisfied with the lubes I tried, so I created my own water-based lubes that have everything I was looking for, such as condom-compatibility, FDA-approval and a smooth, no-sticky formula.
Are you among the many women who have a sensitivity to certain ingredients found in lubes, such as Nonoxynol-9 (an ingredient in spermicide), and sugar derivatives? If a lube is irritating you or your partner, discontinue use and look at the ingredient list to see if it contains anything that could be the culprit. Try different lubes until you find the right one for you.
Lube Application & Etiquette
There’s an art to applying lube that makes it even sexier. Try this:
Warm it! Lube that sits out on your nightstand might as well have been sitting in your fridge when you apply it directly to hot body parts. The solution? Pour some into your palms first, then rub it around till the friction heats it up. Or place the bottle of lube into a bowl of hot water you’ve thoughtfully placed at bedside.
Wipe it! What do you do with all that excess lube on your fingers and hands? Wipe it on his back? The dust ruffle? Your peeled-off clothes? Why not just keep a clean towel within arm’s reach?
Pour it! How much lube should you use? The rule of thumb is you can never use too much, but if you feel you’re not getting enough friction, you may be over-pouring.
7. GIVING GREAT HAND
Most guys will tell you that receiving a handjob is one of life’s greatest pleasures. But getting one that’s truly erotic and exotic is a first-class upgrade to Cloud 9.
Your guy is surely an old hand at satisfying himself. But he’ll be the first to admit that nothing compares to the thrill of your soft, warm, lubricated digits on his penis. It’s the best skin-on-skin pleasure you can give him without thinking about birth control and safer sex. And he’ll jump for joy at the chance to skip those sensation-dulling condoms.