In sum, the Service-to-Others individual may be gruff, distracted, disheveled, and inaccessible. But what are they working toward? How do they react when a truth test comes, where they must be willing to sacrifice themselves for others? Do they come through? And the Service-to-Self individual may be suave, seemingly generous, even defending others. But when their welfare is lined up against another, when they must truly share and words are asked to be replaced by actions, what then?
ZetaTalk: Distinguishing Characteristics
Note: written May 15, 1996
A great deal of confusion reigns regarding the spiritual orientations, and how to determine whether someone is leaning in this direction or that. Key characteristics may come into play when the chips are down, but this is seldom the situation and most of life allows the true orientation to be masked by personality, subterfuge, or such structured situations that the orientation of the individual does not have an opportunity to express.
Take the example of an office setting, where assignments are meted out to individuals but team work is stressed. To the manager, the extroverted young man recently hired may seem to be doing more than his share, at least to hear him talk, as he has many stories detailing how his expertise or enthusiasm for challenge came to the rescue of the group. But check with the individual members of the team, and one learns that the reverse is true, as he was the one who required rescuing and feigned ignorance until other members of the long-suffering team did his work for him. When he gets a raise and a nod, the team is puzzled, as it would not occur to them to report him to the manager for taking more than he is giving. They considered him in need of help, a youth in need of guidance, and took him under their wings. This type of going behind the back and taking credit is a frequent sign that the individual is operating primarily in the Service-to-Self, or is heading in that direction.
Take an example in the military, where soldiers train and then suddenly find themselves on the front lines in a conflict. During training exercises, the officers in charge can be lead greatly astray by bravado in safe and controlled exercises. Those individuals who excelled, exhorted their fellows to greater efforts, and who showed leadership are assumed to do the same in battle. Yet more often than not, it is the quiet soldier who made no efforts to take the spotlight who must step into the fray and assume the true leadership position. This de facto leader may find himself put into danger, deliberately, so the leader with the title can take credit afterwards. Dead men tell no tales, and the record in combat stands at odds with the awards and promotions, so any rumors are discounted. Placing someone else in danger to retain a title or position is a strong sign of an individual in the Service-to-Self, and rarely occurs unless the individual has made their orientation decision.
Take the example of a nurse, required by law and the rules of the hospital where she works to maintain life in her patients regardless of the level of unremitting pain they are experiencing or the pleas they may be laying before her. She has at risk her job, her status, her ability to support her family financially, and most certainly her freedom should she be persecuted under the law, but she determines to listen to those pleas. Certain medications that sustain the living dead, the writhing mass of agony that is in a certain death march, are flushed down the toilet rather than forced into the arm of the patient. Who is to know? Most certainly the patient, who can barely speak except to whisper pleas, will not complain. This type of risk taking, when there is utterly no benefit to the self but rather great risk to the self, is a strong sign of an individual in the Service-to-Other.
Take the example of children in a household where the mother is ill, chronically so, and the children expected to assume her responsibilities. The father works long and hard, and has no patience with chores undone. Some of the younger children need help with their chores, especially as they fail to watch the clock and can be caught rushing to do them when father walks in. The oldest is a girl who herself slips her chores to her younger siblings, leaving them half done so it is not clear who was inattentive. If this girl is to dry and put away the dishes but another child is to set the table, she places the dried dishes on the table rather than into the cupboard, confusing the issue. That her little brother gets whipped for pulling too many dishes out of the cupboard bothers her not. She thinks of hairstyles and makeup and meeting the right boy at the mall. The chips can fall where they may. This type of lack of concern for others can be attributed to inattention, but where one has seen a sibling whipped and can anticipate this in the future, it is not inattention but lack of regard, a sure sign of an individual oriented to themselves, in the Service-to-Self.
In this same example, one of the younger children, a boy, does half the chores for two of his siblings. He works with them, showing them how to do the chores, and in this way not only makes sure the chores are done but are done to the exacting father's measure. In this he doesn't take credit for the chores, but praises his siblings. He also gives up after-school games and parties to ensure that his siblings aren't caught with poorly done chores, knowing the father is awash in fatigue and worry and can take all this out on the household if given half an excuse. This boy, still only a child himself, is giving evidence of his strong orientation in the Service-to-Others. The characteristics are not only that he is helping others, but that he seeks to make them strong and self sufficient and will sacrifice his own pleasure to ensure that others do not suffer.
ZetaTalk: Heaven and Hell
Note: written by Jul 15, 1995
Heaven and Hell are described in the Bible and the Koran as places commensurate with the rewards deserved by those who have functioned in the Service-to-Others or Service-to-Self orientation - in the minds of the authors of these books, who in the main were in the Service-to-Others when they authored the books. For primitive peoples, who relied upon fire for cooking and warmth, catching on fire was a known dilemma, and the pain from such an accident not unknown. Thus, as one of the most excruciating pains, and one slow to heal and suffering the injured much pain during the healing process, eternal fire was the worst of the worst.
Similarly, the higher one went, physically speaking, the better life got. Specifically we are describing living on hill tops versus valleys, and having the higher campground versus one downhill. As the saying goes, shit flows downhill. Valleys have dampness and humidity, lizards and snakes and insects galore. Hilltops have breezes and vistas. Better yet is what the birds enjoy, high in the skies. Nothing can touch them, and as good as the hilltops are, the skies must be better! Thus, heaven is viewed as up in the skies, and the higher the better.
In fact, the just deserts of the Service-to-Others and Service-to-Self are not Heaven and Hell, but to live with their own kind, which is in a manner of speaking, to our way of thinking in any case, a type of Heaven and Hell.
ZetaTalk: Pole Shift